[Notes for a paper to be written with the above title...]
The Owner-Manager Plays the Insist-Yield game with His Employees
The key to prevailing in the game is a credible commitment to insist, against which the other player will rationally yield. A "this business is mine," "my way or the highway" state of mind comes more naturally to the owner-manager, it is reasonable to assume, than it does to the employee-centered manager or the shareholder-centered manager. Accordingly, one expects more credible commitments based on owner-managers having that kind of unyielding character than from the other types.
The problem with a "this business is mine" commitment to having things the owner's way is that it may well not be seen as ethically acceptable by the employees, in which case conflict is likely. The contentious and occasionally bloody history of nineteenth century capitalism may be seen as involving exactly that type of conflict, with owner-managers who strongly asserted their prerogatives giving rise to angry movements of workers fighting against total control by owner-managers.
A second, gentler way to prevail in the insist-yield game is to value the other side's payoffs in the situation in which both of you insist on getting your own way. By doing that, you can wind up in the same place as the dognatic "I will always insist" player, but without the unpleasant, conflict-provoking dogmatism.
So which side is better equipped to value the other's payoff in the insist-insist situation? Though no absolute answer can be given, I would suggest that workers in the owner-manager business are in better shape to appreciate the owner's payoff for insisting than the owner-manager is to appreciate the worker's payoff for being feisty.
As long as the owner has not marked himself as unreasonable by being dogmatically insistent, it is not a difficult stretch for workers to understand and even feel for an entrepreneur-owner who has created a business. It is a much more difficult stretch for the owner-creator to feel a parallel empathy with the payoffs of rebellious workers.
If the foregoing is correct, it is harder for the owner-manager who has built a business to have a character that is altruistic in a useful way than it is for the worker. The owner-founder, altruistic as he or she may be in certain ways in caring about the welfare of others, is likely to have difficulty in empathizing with workers who rebel. A limited caring about the owner helps the workers to get their way against the owner, whose difficulty in caring for the workers leads him to lose out in the "gentle commitment" game.